Our Roots

Now live · Haklo Plus

Haklo notices.
Your family names it.


Roots are the things your family keeps living out. Haklo can notice a pattern across your gatherings and bring it back to you. Whether it’s true, and what to call it, is yours.

Our Roots is live now for Haklo Plus families. It draws on the gatherings you’ve already had — and every one you have from here gives your family more to name.

A Root is a sentence your family agrees to

  • We show up for each other.
  • We protect our rest.
  • We can tell each other the truth.

Short enough to say out loud. Specific enough that everyone knows when you’re living it and when you’re not.

Most families end up with four or five. They don’t arrive all at once, and none of them arrive finished. One surfaces after the third gathering where the same thing came up. Another comes from a question nobody had gotten around to asking.

Every card tells you where it came from

Two kinds of thing show up in Our Roots, and they never wear the same label.

Both cards below are examples. A real one would come from your own gatherings.

Haklo noticedHow we treat each other

We show up for each other

Haklo noticed this in 3 family moments.

Haklo saw the same thing three times and brought it back with the moments attached, so you can read what it saw before you decide.

Conversation starterHow we treat each other

We show up for each other

Conversation starter · not inferred by Haklo

When someone in the family is having a hard week, what do we do?

Nothing in your gatherings suggested this one. It’s a question worth asking anyway, and the card says so.

Same words, different origin. You should never have to guess which is which, so we don’t make you.

The naming round

Naming a Root takes about five minutes, usually at the end of a gathering. Haklo suggests wording. Your family throws it out or writes over it.

  1. 1Does this sound like us?
  2. 2What would we call it?
  3. 3What does it mean in our family?
  4. 4What does it look like when we live it?

The last two are where it gets real. “We show up for each other” is a phrase. “We show up for each other means somebody drives to the airport” is a Root.

Four questions you can ask tonight

These are the conversation starters Haklo hands families. You don’t need the app to use them. Pick one at dinner this week and see where it goes.

How we treat each other
When someone in the family is having a hard week, what do we do?
How we spend our time
What is one thing we always want to keep making time for?
What we protect
What do we want to guard from getting too busy or too loud?
How we grow
What is something this family is trying to get better at right now?

If one of them goes somewhere, that’s the kind of thing Haklo is built to keep.

What Haklo won’t do here

  • Haklo never writes a Root

    It offers words. The ones that stay are the ones your family typed over them.

  • Haklo never grades you against your own Roots

    There is no score on “we tell each other the truth,” and there won’t be one.

  • The coach can’t read your record

    It works on the shape of your gatherings, not on what was said in them.

  • Your Roots stay yours

    We don’t sell them, share them, or train anything on them.

Where Roots go

A Root doesn’t live in a settings screen. It goes into your family record, next to the gatherings that produced it. Read back a year later and the Roots are what holds the rest together.

Roots draw on gatherings. Start yours.

Fifteen minutes, one phone passed around the table, four rounds. Roots draw on the gatherings you’ve already had, so the sooner your family starts, the more there is to notice — and to name.

Our Roots is part of Haklo Plus. The weekly gathering is, and stays, free.